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They are Dan, Alex, and Marty, budding investment bankers at the same financial firm, which recruited Alex and Marty straight from an Ivy League campus.
When asked if they’ve been arranging dates on the apps they’ve been swiping at, all say not one date, but two or three: “You can’t be stuck in one lane …
The Education Department’s senior civil rights official sparked controversy Wednesday by stating that “90%” of sexual assault accusations “fall into the category of ‘We were both drunk,'” suggesting that they are regretted drunken hookups — and provoking repudiations from survivors of campus sexual assault.
Candice Jackson, the acting head of the Education Department’s Office for Civil Rights, told the New York Times that the overwhelming majority of sexual assault investigations do not involve “even an accusation that these accused students overrode the will of a young woman.”“Rather, the accusations — 90% of them — fall into the category of ‘We were both drunk,’ ‘We broke up, and six months later I found myself under a Title IX investigation because she just decided that our last sleeping together was not quite right,’” Jackson said.
(Again, just being honest.) But she also says she enjoyed it all for the most part.
Just under half of all study participants experienced at least one form of relationship churning, and respondents identifying as black or "other" were more likely to report the behavior. Sarah Halpern-Meekin, Assistant Professor of Sociology at the University of Wisconsin at Milwaukee and a researcher behind the study, the behavior is probably even more common than their results suggest.
"Because our analyses only use data on respondents’ present or most recent relationships," Halpern-Meekin said over the phone, "we're likely under-representing the chances of emerging adults everexperiencing a reconciliation or sex with an ex." So individuals who hadn't been in romantic relationships in the previous two years weren't included in the study, even though they may have experienced reconciliation or "ex sex" prior to that time frame.
The study analyzed the relationship experiences of 792 young adults (ages 17-24) from a variety of ethnic and socioeconomic backgrounds in Toleda, Ohio.
Researchers looked for two forms of "relationship churning": reconciliation with an ex, and sex with an ex after a breakup had occurred.